When a person is facing the burden from people around him. he should first identify the route cause for the burden. then identify whether the burden is because of other people's unstable behaviour or because of his ustable behaviour.

if the problem reside in people who are giving burden to you , you need not takeup that burden. they will get sufer at somepoint for their doings.

But. if the problem reside within you, you must work on eliminate the bhevioural problems within you. 

A person can live without ego only when he/she do love everyone without any expectations.